BlessingWay

Welcome Beautiful Sister!

I embrace all that you are and all that you will be as your new bundle arrives; this Blessingway is to honor you!  I would be honored to be your Guide and Facilitator and share this journey with you.  I have several different offerings for you to choose from as well as offering you a 3o minute consultation so we can merge together and create your own unique Blessingway.

History of the Blessingway

The history and wisdom behind Blessingways are vast and powerful. We honor and respect all traditional wisdom surrounding Blessingways and the deep ritual that has been weaved into this practice. I have created several ways to celebrate with women of all walks in mind. I understand that some mothers desire a deeply ceremonial experience while others are simply looking for a supportive environment. Some mothers desire full guidance through the Blessingway while others prefer a more free flowing space. My intention is for all women to have the wisdom accessible to all women, regardless of her beliefs or desires.

Because Blessingways are centered around the mother, we feel it is key to shape the Blessingway to the mother’s preferences so that she may fully receive all of the empowerment, love and support she deserves during this sacred time. This is a mother’s sacred opportunity to choose how she wants to be supported and celebrated.

Blessingways have been offered for hundreds of years to support pregnant women as they transition from maiden to mother. Traditionally this practice roots back into Navajo tradition, though many other cultures around the world practiced similar ceremonies for pregnant women. The word Blessingway itself encompasses the Navajo tradition but know that many other cultures also celebrated pregnant women.

​A Blessingway is a time to honor change, transition and new beginnings. As the mother transitions from maiden to mother, she becomes a new woman.

​Other cultures also had their own variation of Blessingways. Some of these cultures include women in Guatemala, Hawaii and West Africa.

​Every culture had their own specific rituals and ceremonial components, but at their core they are all very similar. For example within the Navajo tradition, blue corn food scrubs are often included ceremonially while in the Mayan tradition, a woman’s pregnant belly may be wrapped with a ceremonial cloth to symbolize protection. These ancient practices are deeply sacred and date back hundreds of years.

It’s important to remember that when leading Blessingways or healing ceremonies for women that you are offering women a practice that is nearly as old as time. With this work you are supporting women in remembering the wisdom of the feminine and the power that every woman carries.

The Difference between a Baby Shower and Blessingway ~

Most of us are more familiar with baby showers than Blessingways. While baby showers can be a fun and supportive space, these gatherings tend to focus exclusively on the baby – not the mother. A Blessingway is hugely different because the entire celebration focuses on honoring the mother. While there can be aspects added in to also honor the baby, a Blessingway is generally focused on the mother and her experiences.

A Blessingway also tends to have a more ceremonial feel to it and focus on specific practices and activities (that we’ll cover in the next module!) whereas a baby shower generally lacks ritual or ceremony. Within this training you’ll be learning how to make a Blessingway accessible to any mother, regardless of her beliefs or background.

How Blessingways have shifted in the modern time ~

Many women are choosing to reclaim the act of reverence and celebration during pregnancy and thus have begun to re-popularize Blessingways. Modern Blessingways are all uniquely different because every mother is different.

It’s powerful to live during a time when so many women are seeking Blessingways for themselves or for their friends. Women all over the world are hearing the call to reconnect to themselves, the Divine Feminine and the Great Mother. Women of all types, backgrounds, beliefs and ethnicities are hearing the call to return to the sacred and this is such a powerful transition to witness.

Traditionally the Blessingway is a Navajo ceremony that honors the divine feminine and the natural order of things. It affirms happiness and a long life. It is a known as a ‘chant way’ ceremony where songs are sung over a person to bless them with good luck, good health and all things good. It is used for many different purposes such as the coming of a new life, the blessing of a new home, for rain and good crops or the good health of a family.

Sacred Ceremonies + Activities ~

There are many different ceremonies and activities that can be weaved into a Blessingway and below I’ve listed the top 10 activities that I’ve implemented into sacred Blessingways. Generally I pick a few of these with the mother (or the woman hosting the Blessingway) and then weave all of this together in a fluid and nourishing flow.

My favorite 10 Blessingway Activities include ~

1. -Flower Crown Weaving-

You can either tell each woman to bring a flower with her to the Blessingway or have a few jars of fresh flowers at the circle space. All of you will then work together to create a beautiful flower crown for the mother to be while she gets pampered. Usually a few ladies will be making the crown while the rest begin the pampering. I recommend buying some floral wire (sold anywhere that sells fake flowers like art stores) and bringing this to all Blessingways. You can then weave pieces of wire together like a braid and then place flowers right into the wire. After creating a gorgeous crown for the mama, you can then gift it to her and let her wear it the rest of the evening.

 

​2. -Blue Corn Food Scrub and Foot Soak-

A particularly sacred Blessingway activity, this dates back to old Navajo tradition. A blend of blue corn and essential oils is scrubbed onto the mother’s feet. The scrub then sits for a couple minutes and then you can bring over a tote of warm water to rinse her feet. I like to add rose petals to the water so that she feels honored and respected. I recommend using frankincense essential oil in the corn scrub.

3. -Massage-

Encourage the group to gather around the mother and massage her. Usually a few ladies will be massaging her feet, her hands and her shoulders. This could be done while her feet soak or right after. Having some jojoba oil or coconut oil with you is a lovely addition so that the mama can be massaged thoroughly.

4. -Brushing Of Hair-

One of my favorite Blessingway activities, this one is particularly special. If the mama’s mother is present, encourage her to be part of this sacred initiation. Traditionally, the mother of the mother is to brush her daughter’s hair and then put it up into a beautiful bun to symbolize the change from maiden to mother. Emotion often arises during this part of the Blessingway too! If the mother is not present, any friend or sister can do the same thing for her.

5. -Henna On Belly-

While the mother is being pampered, typically the henna artist will begin working on the mother’s belly. Henna artists usually draw on mandalas or lotus flowers and this is another powerful experience for all moms.

6. -Bracelet or NecklaceWeaving-

You can ask all women before the circle to bring a bead (I recommend wood beads) to the Blessingway. When everyone is together in the Blessingway, a bracelet or necklace will be formed for the mother to wear while birthing to remember the support and love of her sacred community. If there are extra beads, you can also make a small bracelet for the brand new baby to wear after birth. The bracelet will then be gifted to the mother during the sacred Blessingway

7. -Creating Items For Birth Altar-

You can ask all sisters to bring a few small items to gift the mother for her birthing altar. This altar will be set up in the area where she births and will serve as a reminder of her strength. Typically gifts are not received during Blessingways so the birth altar items can be very small like a feather, goddess statue, sage bundle, candle, etc.

8. -Creating Affirmation Stones-

You can bring with you large flat stones that you’ve collected in nature and have each guest write on the stone a mantra or affirmation for the mother to have while birthing. This could include things like “I am Woman” or “I trust in the flow of all things” to support her in remaining grounded and present. These stones will then be placed on the birth altar for the mother.

9. -Gratitude Circle-

After the mother has been pampered and loved on, we then go around the circle again and tell her what we love and honor about her. This is always such a beautiful and emotional part of the Blessingway. Hold space for each sister as she shares what inspires her about this mother-to-be.

10. -Candle Intention-

At the end of the gathering together, you can choose to gift each woman with a small candle. Ask each woman to select a candle and sit in a circle. You’ll then light the mother’s candle for her and share that this is the light of sisterhood, the feminine and sacred motherhood. The mother’s candle then lights the next woman’s and then that woman lights the next candle etc. until all candles are lit. With all of the candles burning, this is the time to send healing intentions to the mother, to the baby and for all things to flow as they are meant to. The candles are then blown out. This is then the time to tell each sister that a text will be sent out when the mother goes into labor and that the candles should then be lit by each woman as to keep the mother in her thoughts and prayers.

Additional Offerings you can have at your Blessingway:

  • Traditionally food is served at the end of the Blessingway as a form of gathering and celebrating.  You can choose to have your own food catered or I can include.
  • Photographer is always nice to have a designated person to take pictures of your Blessingway.  Or I can hire one for the occasion.
  • Henna Artist is a wonderful opportunity for you to really feel special.

    Henna is an ancient practice that roots back to the Middle East. Traditionally, brides-to-be and pregnant mothers would be painted on with this sacred ink in beautiful geometric patterns. It’s very common to have a henna artist at a Blessingway and typically the artist will create a large mandala or lotus flower on the mother’s belly. If time permits, the artist often likes to offer something small to the other women gathered there.

Henna typically lasts 7 – 14 days so it is not permanent.

 

Blessingway Packages

Package 1: $177

Includes a 2 hour event, description of Blessingways, an informational card for each guest, direction on activities, healing music

 

Package 2: $333

Includes a 3 hour event, description of Blessingways, an informational card for each guest, direction on activities, healing music, food for 12 people

 

Package 3: $444

Includes a 3 hour event, description of Blessingways, an informational card for each guest, direction on activities, healing music, food for 12 people, henna artist for 90 minutes, candles for each guest, fresh flowers

 

If you would prefer to make your own package, see the a la carte items listed below:

Food (for 12 people) – $150

Henna artist (per hour) – $90

Candles for guests – $60

Fresh flowers – $40

Photographer (per hour) – $70

​Blessingway Options

Blessingway Flow One ~

-Opening Circle with Introductions to Blessingways and Introduction to Blessingway Guide

-Intention on Mother and holding space for her

-Go around circle for each sister to share

-Gratitude circle for mother

-Begin massaging mother and apply blue corn foot scrub

-Soak feet in rose water

-Henna artist begins henna

-Create birth altar and write on stones with affirmations

-Closing candle circle

-Food feast

Blessingway Flow Two ~

-Opening Circle with Introductions to Blessingways and Introduction to Blessingway Guide

-Intention on Mother and holding space for her

-Go around circle for each sister to share

-Henna artist begins working with mother

-Begin weaving bracelet and flower crown for mother

-Offer her bracelet and crown and then begin pampering her with massage, foot soak and hair brushing

-Closing candle circle

-Food feast

A sample food menu that I may offer (for 12 people) ~

-24 energy balls made with gluten free oats, chocolate chips, raisins, peanut butter and dates {recipe here}

-3 boxes of organic gluten free crackers served with a spread of hummus, guacamole and salsa

-a large bowl of fresh organic grapes, apricots and strawberries

-large bowl of quinoa salad made with organic quinoa, peppers, greens, chickpeas and other veggies {see my go-to recipe here}

-date almond butter pecan boats (split open a date, add a scoop of almond butter and place a pecan on top – amazing)

-chocolate platter (organic chocolate bars separated and laid out nicely)

-organic kombucha

-organic red raspberry leaf tea